13 January 2012
As I’ve gotten older, I’ve begun to realize the fragility of all relationships; life long and brand new. As unsettling of a feeling as it is to know that even the strongest of bonds can be broken by one erroneous act, I feel great about the ever revolving door that is my life and the people I keep close to these days.
I’ve learned more about people in the last 3 years than in the past 30 combined. Friends I thought would be there forever, are gone because of stupid mistakes. I’ve learned that while in baseball you get three strikes, in life you only get one; and I’ve learned that you can’t truly forgive unless you can truly forget.
As friends go, you won’t find a better one than me. I’m as faithful as can be and my ears and doors are always open for a friend in need. Sure, I have my faults like everyone; but I think I do an exceptional job of being there for friends in any way they need me to be. However, there are a few things that I can’t ignore..
I’ve never been able to relate to people who make it their mission in life to fall in love. Through the years, I’ve realized that even the closest of friends will make you second fiddle to a boyfriend (or girlfriend, I suppose) if need be. One could argue that maybe people who do that aren’t true friends. However, I like to take a more positive approach to the situation by simply saying that people who put boyfriends ahead of friends have a place in my life, but it will never be as the friend I’ll call when I need a shoulder to cry on – which is, to me, is the mark of a true friend.
I’m in a position right now where I have two friends I thought would be there forever that I’m drifting from. The common thread with these two friends is that they’re both incredibly narcissistic – something I have no time for. At the end of the day, you have to ask yourself if you’re worse off for not having someone in your life and, sadly, I don’t miss either one of them. They’re worse off for not having my friendship, and I’ve moved on from any hope of believing that they are the type of people I want in my life going forward.
Sadly, the fragility of friendships is very real, but one of the most important things is having the best support system around you possible. Often times you find what you do want, through experiencing what you don’t ; and you find who you do want, by experiencing who you don’t.
Enjoy the mix below, peeps, and I’ll see you all next week!
Oh, shit! Before I forget, here are a few site notes that I’ve mentioned on my Facebook fan page, but not yet on here:
- In the next couple of weeks you’ll be seeing new categories popping up and more posts per day.
- I’m working on an iPhone-friendly mp3 player so that you iPhone users will be able to listen to all of the music I write about on your phones.
- I’ve designed a tshirt for the 4 of you (including my mother) who mentioned you wanted one. It’ll take me a little while to set up a merchant site, but I shall.
That’s it, I think. Enjoy the music!
1. Matthew Duffy “Homosapien (The Sanfernando Sound Remix)”
2. Tyson “After You’re Gone (The Magician Remix)”
3. Stevie Nicks “Stand Back (Ren Riz Bootleg)”
4. DVAS featuring Kid Static “Society (The Hood Internet Remix)”
5. Totally Enormous Extinct Dinosaurs “Trouble (Chad Valley Remix)”
6. Fiorious “Elevator (Scuola Furano Remix)”
7. Boy Friend “Egyptian Wrinkle (The Whendays Remix)”
8. Escort “Why Oh Why (Pound Sterling Remix)”
9. Quentin Mossimann “Gimme A Break (Mosimann Remix)”
10. Morgan Page featuring Tegan & Sara “Body Work (Club Mix)”