29 October 2011
Sorry I missed you guys last Friday – I was CMJ’ing it up at Le Poisson Rouge in NYC (as the guest of Cascine) and watching some of my favorite new artists, including: Chad Valley, Penguin Prison, Data Romance and more. They were all incredible, but, as he’s tended to be in 2011, Chad Valley was a cut above the rest. INcredible.
I’m going to attempt to make this post short, because I have a fuckload of dumb bullshit I have to do before bed. But today I want to talk about something that’s been on my mind a lot, something I refer to as ‘shedding.’
As I’ve mentioned before (probably way too much), the last few years have been all about personal growth for me. Of the many reasons I’ve been able to grow as a person, one of the biggest has been my ability to get rid of extra baggage in the form of people. The older I get, the more I realize that I’d rather have no friends at all than friends who I don’t gel with in the most important of ways. That realization has led me towards ‘shedding’ many people in my life; and it’s a process that’s essential if you’ve ever felt as though you’re spinning your wheels and recycling the same negative forces in your life over and over.
The fact is, no one needs to have people in their lives who chip away at any confidence they’ve worked hard to build up over the years. Recently the word ‘contributor’ came up in a conversation between myself and a friend. We both came to the conclusion that people are either contributors or they’re not – and feel free to add that train of thought into all aspects of life. From co-workers, to friends, to spouses and to (literally) writers for a publication, what use are people who taketh away for every way they giveth? Translation: If you feel as though someone in your life is a draining force, as opposed to a positive contributing one, you don’t need them.
We all have our own definition of the things that are important to us in relationships – be them business, friend, romantic, etc. A few of my personal needs include people who have:
1. ..an ability to communicate on the spot as opposed to letting shit fester
2. ..a good sense of humor
3. ..good manners
5. ..a real interest in being a good listener/having good conversation
Originally, I had planned to give a specific example (without naming names) of someone who I recently stopped speaking with. But instead of going down that route, I’ll just say that having that person out of my life has felt like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders – which only confirms just how amazing it feels to shed people like that out of your life.
Bottom line: If you’re currently in a situation which is draining as opposed to ‘contributing’…try shedding. It works.
Ok, now onto the music!
This week there’s no theme for my Weekend 10 other than party time! You should recognize many of these artists and a few of them I’ll be introducing you to next week.
In the meantime, listen to every dancetastic track below and click the link at the beginning of the list to download the entire mix.
Have a great weekend and I’ll see you all next week!
To download the entire mix, click here: http://bit.ly/sjja2Q
1. Quentin Mosimann “Do You St Tropez (Dante & Sicky Remix)”
2. Charli XCX “Jungle (Phaeleh Remix)”
3. Fiorious “I’m In Love With A German Film Star (Cerronza Remix)”
4. Switch featuring Andrea Martin “I Still Love You (Louis La Roche ‘I Still Love Switch’ Remix)”
5. Sandee “Notice Me (James Anthony Works The Big Room Bassline Mix)”
6. Strange Talk “Climbing Walls (Strange Talk Remix)”
7. Fiorious “Pretty (Scuola Furano Remix)”
8. Queen Of Hearts “Shoot The Bullet (Le Prix Remix)”
9. Monarchy “You Don’t Want To Dance With Me (Moonlight Matters Remix)”
10. Futurecop! “Starworshipper (MPM Remix)”